Mar 19, 2018
In our latest episode on the Mackey Speaks Leadership Journal, Mackey (@mackeyspeaks) talks about the difference between competition and comparison.
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"Comparison is the thief of joy." Theodore Roosevelt
Mackey distinguishes the difference between competition and comparison. Competition says, "I value you as a person and competitor, so I'm going to bring my very best, and you bring your very best and we'll go head to head. At the end, we'll celebrate that we both did our best. Comparison is the need to see who is better. Am I better than you or are you better than me? The reason comparison is the thief of joy is because comparison doesn't celebrate both of us getting better, but it cultivates getting bitter.
It steals your joy, and it steals their joy
When you compare myself to them, it brings you down, and it cultivates bitterness in you. It doesn't matter that you brought your best. It doesn’t matter how good your PR is. If their PR is better than yours, then yours must not actually be any good.
Can I let you in on a secret? There will always be someone better than you. No matter what you do. You may be the best today, but by tomorrow, or next week, or next month, or next year, someone else will be better.
When we compare ourselves to others and downplay our good because someone else is better, it steals our joy.
It also steals their joy
When you compare yourself to them, you’re devaluing THEIR effort. THEIR best. Comparison says, “for mine to count, I have to devalue yours”
Instead of “it’s either me or you” why not have an “I’m my best, and they are their best” mentality? Let’s celebrate the good in ourselves, so that we can learn from other people’s “better,” so that we can be our best.